When Crisis Hits

There are times in our life when we are shattered by a crisis unforeseen.  It could be a betrayal, or loss of a job or an abrupt rupture of a relationship.  Sometimes things happen out of the blue without any warning and we find ourselves torn into emotional shreds.

Our initial reaction can be scattered with actions going in all sort of directions, as a reflection of our pain.  Usually there is much anger  which if acted upon in revenge can have disastrous results and boomerang back.  When we are thrown off the rails of life, that may be normal, but striking  out in anger, however justified it may seem, only creates more pain and even possible karma.

When we feel tortured and in despair, our thinking is not where is should be.  Our thoughts are fringed with fear and in need of immediacy, we might make impulsive moves not in our best interest.    This is not the time for making life changing decisions .

When a crisis occurs, the best thing to do is just breath and do the basics of self-care.   If you are a young parent and especially if alone in their care, there is no need to be super parent by any means at this time.   Actually I think the responsibility of taking care of our young children is a life saver in itself as it keeps us directed and focused on them,  rather than our pain.

The paralysis and confusion that sets in, is just temporary and perhaps necessary for our mind to heal.  This state of being should be allowed to be for at least a while.   Your neurons in a crisis need to be in intensive care too!

During this time it is hard enough to do your daily duties as best as you can.  Do not take on anything extra at this time for your  life energy is severely curbed.  Even asking for help is hard to do, because you usually don’t want anyone to see your pain.

Yet, this is not a time for isolation and retreat from loved one and friends who care.  We all need crutches from time to time and people who love us like to be of help.  Letting others in to help sooth the pain  provides a shoulder to lean on in time of need.

In sharing our pain, we find that maybe others have gone through the same.  Their wisdom can help us see another perspective perhaps missed in our own turmoil.  Just the fact they too have survived gives us hope and gain of trust that there is life after the loss.

I find the gifts of our spirituality and faith bring much solace and comfort.  We know that we are not alone with our suffering and that there is a bigger plan for our lives.  We can never imagine the benevolent forces beyond our sight, who are there for the asking to guide us through the darkness of night.

When the flares of our emotions reside somewhat with time and we can breathe again with some conviction to begin anew, then we can move forward.  Our minds will be clearer and open to see the other possibilities perhaps hidden before.

I have often said that when the tide of life is out, that is when we find the hidden jewels left strewn about the beach.  We never knew they existed until we are thrust at a loss.  These little jewels can be revelations or ideas that spring forth from the void.

Look for omens from the universe at this time to help point the way.  New doors will open and others will close.  There will be breakthroughs that surprise you.  Opportunities not available before, may come your way.

What ever your loss may be, look towards  God and the Spirit to replace and renew. Believe in your goodness and be gentle of spirit.  As the phoenix rises from ashes, so will you too.