We all have crosses to bear in life. These heavy burdens that feel like the weight of the world follow us like unending shadows, pushing us to the brink. Yet, these painful hardships can become some of our most powerful teachers. Chronic unmet needs, loneliness, mental illnesses, addictions, sorrows, emotional struggles, physical and emotional handicaps, physical …
Sexting is (for those who might have been in a coma ) sending sexually charged messages and photos from one virtual screen to another, on a cell phone. Twinkie sex is my own word for cheap thrills sex, be it sexting, casual sex or cybersex. I like using the word “twinkie” because Twinkies are junk food, …
My most recent travel to the Adriatic coasts and Ionian islands of Greece, generated again my feelings about the many benefits of traveling. Obviously all getting away involves at some time coming home! In the past, getting away was always more exciting than coming home, not that home did not have its own proper attributes. …
Last weekend was father’s days on both sides of the pond, which is unusual, as mother’s day is always different in the states from France. Not being a father, I am writing this from a perspective as a therapist who has dealt with a lot of fathering issues , and or course as a …
Accomplishing and even getting to the top, for some people, does not always lead to a cemented positive self-regard, especially if their self-esteem has been undermined since childhood. Contrary to what you may think, their accomplishments may not hold the same value to them as one would think. In some, this may be initially veiled …
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Ernest Hemingway was one of America’s most talented and prodigious writers, who despite his immense fame, fought many demons in his life. Recognition for his writing though never seemed to completely satisfy his ego, as an emptiness within compelled him toward wild feats of thrill seeking as if to prove something he held in doubt …
One of the things I have always found intriguing and enjoyable, living in Paris, is to be able to walk on the same paths as those renown ones did from the past. I had known about Marie Curie, but had not realized she came to France as a young Polish student to live and even …
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I have always believed that our soul and the cells in our heart carry painful memories that we would just as well avoid dealing with in our daily conscious. That includes anniversary of the deaths of those we loved with all our heart. I noticed that this past week I have felt more depressed, with …
A few weeks ago, I wrote about the gift of forgiveness and the freedom and lightness we feel from letting go of anger and revenge towards others. Today I would like to focus on something a lot of patients have an equally hard doing, and that is being able to forgive themselves. Actually I …
Being a joy seeker is a full-time job of sorts, but the rewards will fall on you! True from time to time, joy just might alight upon your lap, but in general it is best to cultivate creating and seeking that which brings you joy! I often tell patients to ask themselves in the morning …
If you think navigating this life is pretty tough as an adult, you are right. But, It is not much easier being a kid! Sure kids aren’t going around telling you how awful it is, because they have no other frame of reference. Additionally they can not really formulate into words how they are really …
Today, one can read a lot about finding your purpose in life and that is all well and good. But the core value or prima materia that actually should make up your “purpose” must come from your inner vision . A vision constitutes your deepest image of yourself as how you envision or dream about being …